You want to be happy, who doesn’t? However, you might engage in unhelpful behaviors that thwart your success. Whether you procrastinate, feed negative self-talk, or don’t rest your mind, you lower your potential to create happiness.
things you should give up if you want to be happy :
1. Spending hours on social media
Researchers cited what we all know about social media, but sometimes forget to acknowledge -- people post the best versions of themselves online. This leads to envy, and envy leads to despair. Remember that everyone does things at his or her own pace. Turn off your screen and start living your own life, not vicariously through others.
2. Dwelling on the past
You can’t change the past and focusing on something without a solution is sure to put you in a melancholy mood. It’s better to live in the present, and to channel your energies to what you can do as opposed to what you can’t.
3 . Negative self-talk
Self-talk is a barometer, telling you how healthy you are emotionally. If you have low self-esteem, you probably create critical inner banter. Taking notice of what goes on in your head, and putting positive change in action, makes negative self-talk useful. Nonetheless, most people don’t recognize negative self-talk as a pointer, they feed it until it grows out of control. Focusing on critical thoughts expands them and keeps them around.
4. Stop Being a Victim.
In order to be happy, you have to stop acting like a victim. Victims blame others for the predicaments that they find themselves in, they feel powerless to change their circumstances, and they’re constantly waiting for someone or something to come rescue them.
Move from seeing yourself as a victim to seeing yourself as a creator, and then start creating the life that you want.